More joy, more connection, more romance, more unity. Is that what you want in your marriage? If so, you are not alone. I did too.
I worked like the dickens as a younger wife to orient myself toward intimacy and abundance with my husband. But I did not have a clear idea of how to go about it. I goofed up lots. There was no one nearby to cheer me on, to boost my confidence, to suggest ways of handling our relationship as it developed. In fact, everyone thought I should toss him! Many of my family and friends shook their heads in disbelief and disapproval when they heard my near-ex and I had reconciled just four days from divorce court! For years and years after that, I had no mentor to tell me what to expect: how to remove the obstacles, how to reconcile my femininity with his masculinity, how to fix my mistakes or deal with his. My commitment to forever carried me through the rough times, but too often I felt like a child spinning blindfolded who, when her eyes are uncovered, feels dazed and disoriented.
You don’t have to go through all that. Patiently work your way through this page and the resources that follow, including my free webinar, and you will learn what I have learned about loving a man for a lifetime. The body of principles, strategies, and skills that make up the Wife for Life approach to modern marriage are incredibly effective in helping women finally succeed in creating powerful partnerships with their husbands.
Because my team of successful wives and I have dedicated ourselves to supporting women like you, thousands around the world are at last progressing toward the relationship they have always dreamed of.
“You may have just saved my marriage. I’ve been married 52 years.”
“We have been married 42 years—wish I had known all of this long ago!”
“If I had heard you 20 years ago, I would not have divorced my husband.”
These are all actual comments from women who heard in my live presentation only a small portion of what is available to you on this page. Commit right now to giving me a fair hearing and you won’t ever have to groan, “I wish I had known.”
Ready to start then? Good, because we are going to start with you.
As a woman, you have a disproportionate amount of influence on both the day-to-day and the long-term tenor of your marriage.
Why start with me? Isn’t it about him too?
Of course it is. Any relationship is a two-way street, linking two people who share responsibility for its outcome.
But the fact is, as a woman, you have a disproportionate amount of influence on both the day-to-day and the long-term tenor of your marriage.
Part of that power lies in your spirit, your imagination, your intelligence. Another part lies in the social changes that are empowering women in general. Yet another part—an aspect of gender which you’re perhaps only subconsciously aware of—lies in your biological makeup. As the Nigerian proverb says of women: “It’s a beautiful necessity of our nature to love.” Nothing is more basic—and powerful—than that.
Despite your efforts, there’s a whopping good chance your man is persistently ignoring the troubles in your relationship and resisting permanent change.
But marriage is supposed to be 50/50, isn’t it?
You know as well as I do that life is not really about numbers, and relationships that keep score inevitably fail.
Let’s talk reality.
Despite your efforts, there’s a whopping good chance your man is persistently ignoring the troubles in your relationship and resisting permanent change. Your best attempts to move the dial have repeatedly, frustratingly, topped out, at best, somewhere in the middle.
The reason the changes or improvements you’ve attempted haven’t stuck is not because you are powerless, but because you are not applying your power appropriately.
Why haven’t other approaches worked as well as I’d like them to?
As long as you are a well-intentioned woman married to a well-intentioned man, the reason the changes or improvements you’ve attempted haven’t stuck (or even taken in the first place) is not because you are powerless and not because he doesn’t care as much as you do. It’s because you are not applying your power appropriately and because he’s coming at the relationship from a completely different angle. You need to comprehend both.
Can you accept 100% responsibility for your 50% of the relationship? If you can, you’re already tapping into your power. Your husband will necessarily respond to and learn from your relational influence.
I’d like to believe, but what do you mean by power?
Let’s begin by thinking of it this way: Can you accept 100% responsibility for your 50% of the relationship? If you can, you’re already tapping into your power.
“But I’m already doing that! In fact, I’ve been giving way more than that.”
Yes, it may feel like 150%, but if so; you’re operating on a misnomer: marital success does not hinge on stressful, frustrating work. What it does hinge on is understanding your husband’s heart: his dreams, drives, and fears; as well as your own. Once you comprehend that, you will then be able to identify what is actually going on between the two of you: hidden (and misinterpreted) stuff that is limiting, even sabotaging, the relationship. These new ways of seeing yourself, your man, and your marriage will lead to new behaviors; changes that exert a relational influence upon your husband that he will necessarily respond to and learn from. Your well-intentioned man will become increasingly engaged and involved in the process; not through force or manipulation, but through your positive initiatives. In this way you will discover, line upon line, principle upon principle, that you do have the power to move the dial past center, toward maximum.
Hundreds of others who have put this approach to the test (it saved me from a divorce) are here to say that you have the right and the capacity to become a fulfilled, successful woman with a beautiful, lifelong marriage—one for the family history books.
You must start from a foundational rationale, a deep-down motivation, a philosophical backdrop to give your efforts sincerity and staying power. This is what we call your why.
Because we are primed these days to think feminine energy is equal or superior to male energy, we tend to overlook or discount what really makes our man tick. In doing so, we not only annihilate our husband’s dreams, but contribute to the demise of our own.
Becoming your husband’s closest ally and fully vested partner will be the most exciting and rewarding phase in your marital education and transformation.
What do I have to do exactly to have the kind of relationship you’re talking about?
To cultivate the legacy love you dream about, you must understand, internalize, and act upon the proven Wife for Life pattern for a successful marriage. This pattern represents the core of my teaching and mentoring philosophy, and, as I say, it’s working for thousands of women. Wife for Life is based on your heart and soul: your womanly “why’s” , fears, and dreams:
1. Find your “why” for marriage
You must start from a foundational rationale, a deep-down motivation, a philosophical backdrop to give your efforts sincerity and staying power. This is what we call your why. It is a reason for marriage that will inspire your marriage. Most relationship advice, frankly, falls far short of explaining the importance of why. Isn’t that something? Having a why is critical to success in everything that matters. It is especially foundational to a healthy, thriving marriage. Without a why, your marriage cannot ultimately succeed: it will not thrive, let alone survive.
2. Understand your husband’s “why” for marriage
Next, you will have to comprehend and honor your man’s needs and his dreams, weaving them into yours—or yours into his. When you appreciate his why for living and for loving, you can draw him steadily to center, to real intimacy. Unfortunately, because we are primed these days to think feminine energy is equal or superior (if not at least preferable) to male energy, we tend to overlook or discount what really makes our man tick. In doing so, we not only annihilate our husband’s dreams, but contribute to the demise of our own.
3. Avoid becoming a “Dream Breaker”
To avoid turning into that kind of “dream breaker”, you will next need to learn how to respect and respond appropriately to both your fears and to his; to sidestep disillusionment; to manage natural conflict; and to find a balance between attachment and autonomy, between your needs and his, and between your will and his. This will require effectively recruiting his help and involvement while taking responsibility for your own happiness. When you achieve that delicate balance, you will be ready and poised to become your husband’s one true intimate and inspiration.
4. Become a “Dream Maker”
This last aspect, becoming a Wife for Life “Dream Maker”, your husband’s closest ally and fully vested partner, and he yours, will be the most exciting and rewarding phase in your marital education and transformation. It involves embracing the advances and advantages of modern womanhood while appreciating what we can learn from historically successful wives, as well as today’s most powerful partnerships.
Wife for Life is unlike any other martial advice or offering out there, supported and validated over and over everyday by wives and marriage professionals.
This sounds unrealistic, or, at least, out-of-reach.
If it sounds too good to be true, you may be lacking marriage mentors, or real exemplars in your life of this kind of relationship — but it does exist and it is possible! You may also be coming from a trying background or from a difficult relationship that makes it hard for you to believe in marriage; or perhaps you’ve tried other programs or philosophies that didn’t really work for you.
On the other hand, the Wife for Life approach to successful marriage may ring hopeful and true to you!
Whatever your first impression, let me emphasize that Wife for Life is unlike any other martial advice or offering out there. All together, it is a comprehensive, contemporary, principle-based-but-practical step-by-step approach, supported and validated over and over everyday by wives and marriage professionals.
While no writer, counselor, researcher, or mother-in-law can guarantee the outcome of your relationship, there is one person you can turn to with confidence: yourself.
Once you have all the information and supports you need from Wife for Life, and are ready to invest in the process of transformation, you will find, like so many others, there’s no stopping your progress.
As a woman you have far more power than you ever dreamed possible to affect your own happiness and the ultimate outcome of your marriage.
But how can I be sure of success?
While no writer, counselor, researcher, or mother-in-law can guarantee the outcome of your relationship, there is one person you can turn to with confidence: yourself. Once you have all the information and supports you need from Wife for Life, and are ready to invest in the process of transformation, you will find, like so many others, there’s no stopping your progress.
“Over time and with effort our marriage has grown from good to great but still with ups and downs that seemed beyond my control. I have read a lot of books that have been helpful, but it is difficult to try new things and sustain them long enough to develop new habits and patterns, especially without a big picture to see how all those parts fit together. I figured we had hit a ceiling; this was as good as it gets. But the ceiling I thought we’d hit? The roof is off! Because of Ramona and Wife for Life, we are reaching new levels of love, understanding, and companionship that I had only dreamed of! The best part is that I know there is even more to look forward to because I now understand my part in how to get us there.”
This is just one of the hundreds of super enthusiastic testimonials, reviews, and personal posts out there on Amazon, wifeforlifeuniversity.com, websites, social sites, and blogs.
“When I originally read reviews and saw women talking about this changing their lives and saving their marriages, I assumed they were exaggerating. A lot. I’ve changed my mind. Whether your marriage is happy or struggling; whether you feel like you could use some help being a better companion or you feel like you are awesome and your husband needs to cherish you more, this is for you. Seriously. And no, I did not receive any compensation for my glowing review/endorsement.”
My team and I are also personal witnesses to the thrilling changes being effected by our students in their marriages everyday, including literally saving their families.
“Wife for Life has saved my marriage. Ramona Zabriskie is a voice of inspiration in a world that indicates that a new marriage may be better than working on the one we have.”
“Ramona cannot promise that Wife for Life will save your marriage, but I can say it saved mine!! No more divorce proceedings for us!”
“On a trip to Florida to visit a friend with one question in mind ” is it time to divorce?” I came across Wife for Life. Instantly my marriage was not only worth saving but I knew I had the control to have an amazing lifelong marriage!”
“If not for Wife For Life I would now be divorced. I won my husband back when we were only 4 days away from going to court. I am forever in Ramona’s debt! I love her and her marriage-saving Wife for Life!”
These beautiful women and so many others like them, despite their best efforts, felt powerless to effect real, lasting change in their marriage until they found Wife for Life. Now they are all too willing to testify: as a woman you have far more power than you ever dreamed possible to affect your own happiness and the ultimate outcome of your marriage.
“It’s as if he’s just been waiting for this!!! I’ve been blown away by the tenderness and love he has poured out. I used to think he did not really love me… But, within just a matter of weeks, he has become much more affectionate. Holding my hand when we are together, falling asleep with my hand in his.”
“A miracle has happened today—about an hour ago in fact. I got my kiss—the melting type! My husband told me that he has seen the change in me, acknowledges my efforts, and most of all that he loves me!”
“I am seeing a different man, the man I remember. The happy, joking, more easy going man. I could break down in tears because I tried so hard so long to have faith in so many different ways. At last I feel we can breathe again.”
“My husband is a new man. A different man. I have awakened a sleeping giant and I am so happy.”
“Our relationship is going from strength to strength. I cannot believe the turnaround. I have gained so much more confidence. Everything is right with the world.”
“I no longer feel I am going insane. I no longer feel the need to get to those doctors to get myself some antidepressants! I am liberated!”
“It has worked! You have given me my life back! Thank you thank you thank you!”
“My life will never be the same! I will always be grateful and will never be able to say Thank You enough for the miraculous, life changing Wife for Life!
Your time is now.
Do not postpone believing in your power.
For many women, this first principle we’ve been talking about, comprehending your power—the rockbed for marital success—somehow never sinks in until it suddenly becomes the only hope, a last-ditch effort to save the marriage. By then, of course, a woman’s power is seriously eroded; having never cultivated the skill set of a successful wife, her husband is beyond reaching. End of story. Victimization sets in and tragically, is often passed down to the next generation of females in the family who learn to distrust men and feel cynical toward marriage.
If you came from that kind of background, you know how devastating it can be.
“I came into my marriage knowing only what I saw from previous examples, which I know they only saw from their previous examples. Ramona dumped many of my previous beliefs about marriage upside down, and gave me a completely new paradigm to work from.”
It’s time to think about where you are standing right now in relation to the marital success and the happiness of your family way down the pike. How does it compare to your dreams? Much of your future and theirs depends on which direction you go next.
“My three daughters will have better relationships because they saw my best efforts, and now I have even more to share and model.”
“I must say it is VERY powerful to find something deep within yourself and to stand up and be the one who steps out bravely, courageously, to shift generational patterns — habits, perspectives, and traditions that aren’t serving us.”
“Decades from now as you look back and consider your own happiness, your spouse’s, and even your children’s and grandchildren’s, you’ll count Wife for Life as one of the most important discoveries you’ve ever made.”
This is important. Your powerful position as a woman can carry you just as certainly toward the alienation and dysfunction just described, as it can toward intimacy. Alienation is not, of course, where you want to be.
Where you want to be, years from now—when your marriage has beautifully matured through Wife for Life—is with a man that has become his best, most courageous, most loving self because of you; a man that you not only respect, but admire; a man who lives to cherish and honor you as the powerful, indispensable, irresistible partner you have become: a Wife for Life.
The Inspiration and Information You Need to Succeed
If you are ready then for more from your marriage, then you are ready for Wife for Life. It doesn’t matter where you’ve come from or how long you’ve been married or if you are even married right now. All you need is the right inspiration and information. And I’m going to give it to you for nothing. No money. No obligation.
In my free on-demand webinar, Your Power to Succeed in Marriage, you will learn Wife for Life principles that can change your world same day. After our time together you will:
- Understand your dreams and drives: your why for wanting to be married for a lifetime.
- Understand his dreams and his drives: his why for devoting his life to you.
- Unearth the hidden fears that are undermining your marriage and your personal happiness.
- Be able to identify the inadvertent behaviors that are actually pushing you apart.
- Feel armed with the insights that will draw him closer and closer until he opens up and trusts you as his one, true intimate.
This is the meat and potatoes. This is the stuff that has saved and vastly improved many, many marriages! Over and over, women call this presentation “powerful”, “phenomenal”, and “life-changing”.
“Ramona Zabriskie is one of the most colorful, profound presenters I have ever seen. In just a few days, my marriage is improving for the better! I cannot wait to see where we are in a year!”
“Your words, knowledge and insight had not only been recognized as truth, but also the information in your presentation answered ALL of the questions, musings, faint beliefs and mustard seeds of hope I carried within the deep recesses of my heart.”
“I am a social worker/therapist. I have heard quite a bit on relationships and nothing has resonated with me as well as your material!“
“Perhaps the biggest take away from your presentation, and there were many, was the knowledge that I now had the understanding and the tools of how to draw my husband to me.”
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You have nothing to lose but your old frustrations.
Forgive me for reiterating, but I want to be sure you take away this one fact above all the others: Wife for Life is well proven. It works for so many not only because of it’s powerful line-upon-line, principle-based approach, but because we’ve developed the optimal combination of learning and support. I want you to experience the immediate impact of this uniquely effective formula starting today by signing up for my substantive on-demand webinar: Your Power to Succeed in Marriage.