I chose to marry my husband because I believe he is an incredible person with capabilities beyond the ordinary.  I also believed that I had unique talents.  I thought that if we joined our strengths in marriage, we could be unstoppable. But, honestly (and unfortunately), with everything that life has thrown at us throughout our marriage, I forget that all too often.

That’s why one of my favorite movies is Disney/Pixar’s The Incredibles.  My favorite scene is a pep talk from Edna Modes- superhero uniform designer extraordinaire.  Helen (the wife) is falling apart because she thinks her husband is cheating on her.  (In reality, he’s not cheating- he is working on the side in a capacity that is uniquely his, but he hasn’t told her because it’s something he knows she wouldn’t approve of.) She is crying and whining about where she has gone wrong when Edna whacks her over the head with a newspaper and tells her to snap out of it. She says…

“What will you do?  Is this a question?  You will remember that he is Mr. Incredible, and you will remind him WHO YOU ARE!…”

“As keeper of the relationship, a Pioneer Woman has the strength, talent, self-assurance, and fortitude to wave her marriage forward- no matter the height or depth or number of mountains and valleys (or natural disasters) on the road ahead…” Wife for Life:The Power to Succeed in Marriage, Chapter 17

Sometimes I sit and figuratively (or literally) cry about how disappointed I am in the way things have turned out in one situation or another. And I just need an Edna (or in my case a Ramona Zabriskie) to tell me to snap out of it and remember who I am and who he is! I am amazing and capable- and I have unique qualities. So does he. And if I join with my husband- we can be an unstoppable force for good!

Ramona’s note: My 4-year-old grandson told me this week that he prays in “every prayer” that his family can be a “Super Hero Family”. I told them they already were. 🙂