Lisa, what was different for you in your quest to improve your marriage recently, as opposed to past attempts?

In my previous 12 years of marriage I had been continually waiting (and asking) for my husband to change and to make the effort to show that he loved me.

Our message is clearly the opposite of that, isn’t it? You sort of took a chance then working with us?

Yes. I was spread pretty thin between everything I was trying to do, and didn’t have a lot of faith that my marriage would improve (which felt mediocre at best), plus I was going through another round of depression and anxiety.

And, as I remember, you weren’t even able to attend Wife for Life University live classes at the time.

That’s right. I wasn’t able to participate during the live discussions because of other commitments, but I soaked up every recorded lecture in the evening.

If you were so down and overwhelmed, how did you find the time and wherewithal to implement the things you were learning?

I remember I emailed you, Ramona, that I didn’t know if I could do what you were asking me to try. In the next class, I felt like you were talking to me personally, even though I was listening to the recording later, and you promised that if “I” would try, I would be happier, and it would be worth it.

I think I must have been talking to you. Did it help?

Oh yes. I was amazed that of all the people you were helping you would personally address my concerns. I committed to investing myself in the things you were teaching. Of the several suggested exercises you gave us each week, I would pick one, and focus my efforts. I remember the first week, the only thing I changed was the way I was thinking about my spouse.

Beautiful. When did you start to feel the impact of those small weekly efforts?

Oh, I could hardly believe the immediate and sometimes profound differences I began to see in not only my relationship with my husband, but also with my relationship with myself, and with God. Every small effort I made to follow your suggestions was rewarded — sometimes immediately, and others have come over time — with increased emotional connection with my husband, understanding…even romance (gasp!).

Hahaha. That’s the best!

Seriously, it was so empowering for me to learn that I could create the happiness I wanted in my marriage and in my life.

It’s interesting that you started out so skeptical, really, and then became such an enthusiast.

It’s true! My sister in law, originally recommended Wife for Life to me. She told me what you were trying to accomplish and why, and I felt like I wanted to support you, so I bought the book. I read the first chapter, which I found interesting, and then put it on the shelf for several months, not feeling ready to make any changes. Then I came across Wife for Life University, and felt strongly drawn to participate, although I usually shy away from putting myself “out there” with people I don’t know.

I love it! We all have our own journeys don’t we? I’m just grateful my journey brought me to you and that your journey brought you to us!

Absolutely. And now a year after my journey with you and Wife for Life University began, I continue to see the love and satisfaction in my marriage grow as I apply Wife for Life principles. My husband is my best friend again, and I feel hope and joy in our daily interactions. In addition I have gained a dear friend and support in you, Ramona, who have answered every email and concern, and cheered and guided me along the way. Your book and Wife for Life University have been a life changer for me!


Don’t you love Lisa? The important thing is that Lisa now loves herself! And her husband! And her life! When she came to comprehend that it was her fears and doubts that were sabotaging everything she’d ever really dreamed of, and that she had far more power than she realized to change all that — to create her happiness and her relationship — she was open to trying out new ideas and new ways of thinking and behaving.

And then, when she started to see and feel big returns on those small investments, it gave her more and more incentive and determination to reach and dream and become!

You can feel that same sense of power and accomplishment. You can change your world from the inside out!

Wife for Life University helps women from every stage of life and marital experience gain the powerful skills, confidence, and long-range vision needed to affect their own happiness as well as the ultimate outcome of their marriage.

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Ramona Zabriskie
Ramona Zabriskie, a wife of 41 years, is the multi-award winning author of Wife for Life: The Power to Succeed in Marriage and the celebrated marriage mentor and global educator of the 5-star WifeSavers Podcast, the WifeSavers Education Membership, and the acclaimed one-of-a-kind virtual school for women, Wife for Life University. Turn your marriage around in a thrilling way with her new free ebook, 5 Lies We Tell Brides and 5 Truths That Save Wives.