I really enjoy it when something pops into my day that makes me think of my husband and how much I love him.
That’s exactly what happened recently when Meghan Trainor’s “Like I’m Gonna Lose You” came on the radio. I hadn’t paid attention to all the words before. This time I heard the line: “we’re not promised tomorrow” and the thought filled me with love for my husband.
Yes, tragedies and chaos can steal my tomorrows, I thought, but I still have today. And I can make the most of today, if I choose to, and be grateful for the time we do have together.
I lived apart from my husband for 3 months this past summer while he worked in another state between his two years of business school.
It. Was. Hard. But not for the reason most people think of: Oh man, just you taking care of your kids alone for 3 months?!
Actually, the kids and I stayed at my parents resort style home for those 3 months: swimming pool with slide, trampoline, movie theater room with surround sound and popcorn machine in the basement, not to mention museums and trails and camping nearby.
The reason it was hard was because I missed my husband: his touch, his smile, seeing him play and love our children and simply his presence. Being without him made everything just seem, less. Even enjoyable moments weren’t as full without him there beside me.
So when we were reunited again, every moment was satisfying. Just to see him sitting there on his phone or eating breakfast or doing work on his computer made me smile because he was ACTUALLY here. I probably looked a bit creepy staring at him excessively all googly eyed. 🙂
And sooner than I expected, I was going to want and need his presence and his unique ability to care for me more than I realized.
I have recently been living in the unforeseen and uncontrollable chaos of nausea, fatigue, and a cruel nose that could seemingly smell through the walls to find the most offensive gag inducing odor. (Oh the ‘joys’ of the first trimester of pregnancy, definitely worth it in the end, but also horrid at the time.)
Through that time I was supported by women in my community that love and care for me —but my husband was my true Hero.
Picking up the house after a day of children being left to their own devices, bringing home food, cleaning the kitchen almost every night (of which he had no part in making it the disaster it was), and doing much much more all with a kind and helpful attitude after his own long and exhausting day.
“He wants with all his heart to believe, and wants you to believe, that he does what he does not only because of you, but for you- a magnificent obsession born out of love.”- Wife for Life: The Power to Succeed in Marriage, Chapter 4: Finding His Why
Our husbands love us like no other person can or will. As I mentioned before his unique ability to care for me. And your husband has his own unique way to care for you too.
Here’s four ways to make the most of TODAY:
- Look at your husband and SEE his love for you.
- Be grateful just for his presence.
- Let your heart swell.
- Tell him about it with words, in a note or a text, and seal it with a hug or kiss.
I am so grateful for the time I have with my husband and, because tomorrow isn’t a certainty, I keep trying to make the most of today.
So I’m gonna love you like I’m gonna lose you
And I’m gonna hold you like I’m saying goodbye
Wherever we’re standing
I won’t take you for granted
‘Cause we’ll never know when, when we’ll run out of time